Wuz up dawg?

I have heard that my blog has been on the fritz. Well dog gone it, I hate when that happens. I do not know what was wrong and the blog was fine on my computer. Anyway, I deleted the "Too Much Rain" entry and then returned it to the blog. When I originally posted it I got some funny error message, so perhaps I did something wrong. I hope it is now fixed. If you still are unable to read it, will you email me please?

Things at the hospital have been rough. I have never experienced such emotional pain and turmoil in my life. Watching your child go through something like this is just horrible. Nick is still having a rough time with the breathing thing, due to the Aspergillus fungal pneumonia. I have been trying to explain to everyone how serious this is, but, it is hard for everyone to understand. I have a new analogy I have been using so I hope this helps.

The fungus is the enemy and they are attacking Nick's lungs. Normally your bodies "soldiers" the WBC and neutrophils would fight off the attack and all would be well. For some unknown reason, all of Nick's soldiers have disappeared and he does not have an IRR or stop loss! Therefore, his lungs are at the mercy of this horrible predator. Now basically these fungus dudes are camped out in their bunkers and they have figured out that Nick doesn't have any soldiers. The anti-fungal medicine Nick is getting are like guns. But, the guns aren't very effective when there is no one to pick up the gun and shoot it. So basically the guns are all lined up there doing nothing. They make for some good scare tactics because the enemy can see we have some big guns, so the fungus guys are happy to stand pat waiting for the first opportunity to attack. What Nick needs is for his soldier to come back and pick up the guns and start fighting. The doctors are trying to figure out what is the best way to get Nick's soldiers (i.e. his counts - WBC's and neutrophils (ANC) up so he can fight this infection.

The radiation treatments are complicating everything right now and the timing of this pneumonia with the radiation treatments couldn't be worse. Nick is scheduled to go for his last three treatments, starting tomorrow. I am not sure if the doctors will decide to hold the treatments or not. Nick's throat is REALLY SORE and PAINFUL from the radiation and nothing we have tried is working. While he had a better day today, he is still teetering on the brink and I need everyone to pull in all their favors with higher powers and get Nick to come out on top of this whole mess. Any positive thoughts and vibes you can send our way will be appreciated. It has been such an emotional roller coaster for Nick, Kate, Glenn, Sara, and I. Words cannot express the heartache and pain that I have been feeling of late, in combination with the daily emotional and physical toll of being at the hospital every day and watching my son deteriorate before my eyes. Keeping him fed with nutritious foods that he can actually eat has been a constant battle and so difficult in terms of transporting food from home and in and out of an isolation room. The stories I could tell. They are considering moving Nick to a room closer to the nurse's station for closer monitoring...finally! The nurse's have been so wonderful...it is the only way I can come home at night to sleep, knowing that he has a good nurse their to watch over him. Nick has been very tired and he should not be having a lot of visitors at one time, so please call me or Nick before you come down. It is good to have people for short visits, but, not all at once. I must get some sleep...way too early of a day tomorrow.

Too Much Rain

The best thing one can do when it's raining is to let it rain.” ~
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Nick continues to struggle with this formidable enemy. The doctors made themselves scarce today, although Dr. Frosty has returned and came to see Nick today. Nick's breathing has not improved and it seems he has hit a plateau in his recovery on that front. This is of grave concern as this fungal pneumonia is nothing to take for granted. The doctors have decided to change one of his meds. They are taking him off the Voriconazole and putting him back on the dreaded "Ampho-Terrible," in hopes that this will be able to kick this stubborn fungus.

In addition, it has been decided to stop Nick's Dasatinib (the oral chemo agent that fights his PH chromosome + CML) in the hope that his counts will recover. Nick's WBC and neutrophil counts are very l ow and they need to be higher in order for Nick's immune system to function properly.
He needs these cells to fight the infection badly. Taking Nick off the Dasatinib is a gamble and we are all hoping it pays off for the good. The hope is that while Nick continues his radiaiton treatments, this will keep the CML at bay in his spinal fluid.

Nick continues his radiation treatments. He has completed EIGHT of the twelve to date. I think the radiation "fatigue" is catching up with him as he slept much of the day. It has been so hard to watch Nick go through this latest triple whammy of infection, radiation, and low counts. All of these things cause your body to feel horrible...so I cannot begin to imagine how it feels to have all three of them ganging up on Nick's poor body. It seems that I cry every night on my way home. Of late I am always torn about leaving him and I only go home because there is no where to sleep and I was exhausted from spending just one night in that horrible place. Have to go to bed...please keep Nick in your prayers and let him know that you are thinking of him with your cards, letters, emails etc. Nick is really not ready for a lot of visitors yet, but, he does need to know that everyone out there loves him and supports him.

They Shoot Horses Don't They?

Well today has been another frustrating day down at good 'ol Weinberg. A new attending doctor started today....need I say more. We do not know this one at all, he has never laid eyes on Nick and does not know his history from a hole in the wall.
After waiting to speak with him for most of the day, he finally appeared. No introduction, just walked in to Nick's room and first thing asks who I am??? What the hell??? I need to come up with a new response to that one...I am always so shocked when they actually "challenge" my being here, as if I don't have a right to be here, I usually say something like "I'm the Mom." I always feel that my presence has been discussed quietly in the hallways and my name taken in vain and God know what. Of course, most likely, I am just being paranoid, but, then again, maybe not. This new attending, Dr. Gasseous (name so because according to Nick, he stinks!) proceeds to talk about things in very broad terms, throwing out treatments that I know Nick did not understand with really no explanation as to the rationale behind it. He also has Nick take off his oxygen to see what his sats do on room air...well, within moments they began to plummet and his heart rate went up about ten points just sitting there. The resident began to request that Nick about put the cannula back on all the while Dr. Gasseous talked on about Nick's complicated case. I sat quietly and listened, waiting for my opportunity to ask questions etc. Well when Dr. Gasseous was finished, he pointedly asked Nick if he had any questions or concerns, then proceeded to bolt out of the room. The resident, Dr. Harvey, knew that I was not happy and even hung back to say, "Uh...I feel like we have left some questions hanging...." Uh....no duh! I was so upset, I couldn't even speak, I then told him that I couldn't really talk right then, because I was either going to cry or blow my top and say something I would regret!

After the room was empty, the nurse came back in to ask how it went....Nick & I both groaned.
I told Nurse that I felt the MD was rude and disrespectful to me. Then after she left I started to cry because I have just REALLY HAD IT WITH ALL THE BULLSH*T AROUND HERE!! The idea of this new attending starting off like this, well it just made me so angry, frustrated and upset, bringing all my pent up sadness and fear! Don't they understand...I just want Nick to be well! I do have important insights and observations to be offered. I will demand that my role be respected and validated! Nick is going to give Dr. Gasseous what for tomorrow and let him know wuz up wit dat yo!

My new intro is going to be as follows: Hello, Dr. So and So, my name is Diane. I am Nick's Mom and I have been his private duty nurse for the last TEN MONTHS! I have twenty-eight years of critical nursing experience and my input will be respected and valued as part of Nick's health care team. I want the best for my son, I want him to be well, and I will never waiver in my loyalty to him.

Maybe this will help them to understand why I am so tenacious and unwilling to let them keep me down for long. Nick has not fought this hard for this long for it all to come unraveled now. Nick even said we will get a new attending if we need to, or we will move to a new floor, or we will go to a new hospital...I don't think we will have to go to that extreme, but, today has been another blow to my fragile emotional state. I don't think these doctors know what it is like to have to watch someone you love go through something like this for so long. I know that Nick is just one of many patients to them, but, HE IS MY CHILD AND HE IS MY SON!

Nick continues to struggle with all the complicated issues involved with this current battle. He is still on oxygen and still working hard to breathe. The radiation treatments continue. Today Nick completed #7/12!! The down side: his counts remain low with WBC = 600 and ANC = 180!
Platlets = 35 and the Hct. (which I do not believe) is 27.6. Nick continues to have fevers almost every night despite continue IV antibacterial and antifungal therapy. My nurse sonar is pinging again and I seem to be in a constant state of worry. The nurses have been wonderful, despite the reputation that I am sure proceeds me. I really do not feel that I am such a pain, but, even if I am I do not care. My head and my heart are in the right place and the rest of them be damned. Dr. Frosty returns tomorrow, so hopefully he can help us in our quest for information and communication with the attending and the house staff. For now I am signing off, I am tired and I need to calm myself down.

P.S. - Dr. Gasseous did return to talk with us again, as I guess our nurse let him know that we were quite upset (or at least I was and I think Nick was too!) and he did spend a little more time and we tried to smooth things over and get off to a new and better start. Nick and I were not completely won over, but, it was a good start.

P.S.S. - Oh yes, that's my new Stryker that I ordered in the picture. I can't wait until it arrives so I can start shootin' stuff!

The Best Medicine

It has officially been Monday for a few hours now and I was supposed to be in bed thirty minutes ago. Nick has taken to giving me strict bedtime instructions before I leave the hospital. But now I have the parent's revenge, I don't do what he says! Ha! Wait until he tries to take my keys away because he insists I'm too old to drive. This will be a funny one as both he and Sara insist I cannot drive now. So since I must go to bed, I am going to keep my blog subject matter to CUTE (thus this adorable picture) and FUNNY (thus this crazy song I found for my play list).

Nick is hanging in there and I will post any new updates tomorrow. Nick's counts have continued to drop and he has to resume his radiation treatments this morning. Please continue to keep him in your thoughts and prayers.

“Perhaps I know best why it is man alone who laughs; he alone suffers so deeply that he had to invent laughter.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche

“You may forget the one with whom you have laughed, but never the one with whom you have wept.” ~Kahlil Gibran

Mountain Climber

Before Nick went in the hospital, we started watching Price Is Right in the mornings. There is a game on there called "Mountain Climber." The little Swiss dude yodels his way up the mountain and he is not supposed to fall off the edge of the cliff. Well right now Nick is that little Swiss dude and he is still climbing. Today he completed his 4th radiation treatment. We made a paper link chain to represent each day of the twelve treatments. And we take one off after he completes each day. He will now have a break over the weekend. Thank goodness as his counts have started to drop. His platelets are down to 102 from 170 and his WBC today were down to 750!! The nurse's and doctors postulate various theories as to why Nick's white count is now really low. The reasons in no particular order include: radiation treatment, infection, medications, Dasatinib, or just plain old neutropenic fever. Now I am way too tired to elaborate on these theories, but, suffice it to say, I am not happy that his counts are this low. If they are down due to radiation treatments, I am hoping that the weekend off will allow them time to recover.

Nick is doing better with his breathing issues. His oxygen requirement is lower and his sats are improved. However, he still has to be on the oxygen and nebulizer treatments. Nick is still having increased work of breathing and mild distress with any activity. However, today he actually took one lap, went back and forth to the real bathroom and sat up in a chair for a few hours. Today we discovered his oxygen wasn't working because it hadn't been hooked up to the wall correctly after a treatment. Nick was trying to sleep and he was very restless and could not get comfortable. He told me he couldn't breathe. Long story short we found the culprit and fixed it on our own. Apparently the respiratory therapist had not fastened the bottle back on correctly after one of Nick's treatments. This is the second time something like this has happened. Not sure what to say, but, you can be sure this doesn't help keep the worry meter stay in the green. Nick's appetite is slowly returning and as long as we keep bringing food from home he eats. The hospital food is just horrible! A pathetic state considering the high nutritional needs of BMT patients. Another story for another day.

Despite all the good news, Nick continues to spike a fever each night. No one seems to be able to explain the cause of the fever. Every night he has blood sent for cultures. His arms are like pin cushions between IV's and lab draws. How he can be having an infection on all this medicine, I can't figure out. It is possible it could be caused by one of his meds and or by the fact that he is neutropenic. Who knows?

This hospitalization seems interminably long. It is one thing when one is mentally prepared for a long stay, it is entirely another matter to be admitted not knowing when Nick will be well or when he will be able to come home. It seems there is a plot to keep us all in a state of sleep deprivation, high stress and low energy. It seems that we are paddling as fast as we can and getting no where fast. Need to go to bed...I am hoping to go to see my Gems compete tomorrow in Columbia, so Sara, Glenn and Kate will be on duty throughout the day. While Nick's counts are this low, he is more vulnerable that ever to bugs and germs, so any visitors must be in sterling health. Please send your love and support Nick's way in whatever way you can...cards, letters, email, FB etc. He really needs to know that people are still supporting him in this fight.

Honeycomb Hell

This is a picture of the kind of radiation mask that Nick has to lie in for hours at a time. Only Nick has to lie on his belly with his face down in the mask. Obviously, this is not Nick, but, a picture of some other unfortunate soul who has had to go through radiation treatments. Nick has the marks on the back of his neck, head, and spine.

Today was Nick's second of twelve radiation treatments. The treatments are hard on him right now due to his breathing being compromised. He is powering through as best he can and he has been such a trooper for all this.
Nick really did not want to delay the treatments any longer than necessary due to the fact that his last IT chemo was on February 26th. That seems like eons ago right now! The longer Nick goes without treatment, the more chances of the critters coming back. Nick has to have the oxygen mask taped to the "radiation mask" so the oxygen blows up into his mouth and nose. After he lies down, they basically clamp his head in place with another piece of mask so he cannot move even a little. If he has to get out of it, the treatment stops and must be started all over from the beginning. Nick has managed to get through the first two (two hours and ninety minutes respectively) without having to stop. Nick says it is very hard to lay still for that long and he has to keep himself from freaking out. He has been taking music down there each day to listen to while he gets the treatment. Yesterday, he took Pearl Jam's "Ten" and today he took the Avett Brothers, "Four Thieves Gone." We are going to make some kind of paper chain or representation of the days and count them down...anything to help us all get through this...then maybe we can have a post-radiation party! I will have more posts later on the radiation. Nick is sleeping right now. He is just plain tuckered out. I will try to post again with other information.
Suffice to say, Nick is stable and making slow progress against the fungal pneumonia.

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Ancient Bruises

"And darkness spreads over the snow, like ancient bruises.
I'm awake and I feel the ache."

Nick has shown signs of great improvement since Friday! Thank goodness. The fungal lung infection/pneumonia is most like Aspergillus, but the final report is still out. In the meanwhile, Nick is on IV medicine to kill these wretched evil spores. The doctors also ordered a new medicine today to team up against the funginess.
The two medicines are called Voriconazole and Caspofungin. Nick is still on oxygen and while his breathing has improved considerably, he still gets easily taxed by any simple movement. I am hoping he will continue to improve with each day. His appetite is better, so he has his work cut out for him to put back on the many lost pounds of weight! The decision on whether or not to start radiation is still hanging fire. It is hoped that Nick will be stable enough to start tomorrow. I won't know until I get to the hospital today. Nick is still hooked up to monitoring of his VS and oxygen saturation, but this to me is a good thing, because then the nurses have a continuous read on his status. Yesterday there was quite a parade of people through to see Nick from his regular doctors, to the Infectious Disease, Pulmonary, and Radiation Oncology people. In addition, we had visits from Nurse Lovely and social worker Kindly. They are a wonderful support for both of us.

I am much relieved that the problem has been diagnosed and is seemingly under control. However, this fungus is some serious business, so it is a new worry on the list. I am quite exhausted so I will try to post more later. I hope Nick will soon be well enough to have some visitors. Please keep the good vibrations coming his way. His spirits are improving slowly as well. If they do start the radiation treatments, there will be hopefully a small window of time that he actually feels slightly better, before the potential side effects kick into gear.

Fungus Among Us - Part Two

Today we were told that Nick has a fungal infection going on in his lungs. The samples that were taken in the bronchoscopy are growing some yet to be determined fungus. While it is good we know what we are treating, or at least one thing for sure, it is bad because this can be a very serious matter.

Nick continues to struggle with his breathing and any exertion of any kind, even talking, is a struggle for him. Due to the new info today, Nick was taken off Ambisome and put on Voriconazole IV. This is also an anti-fungal medication and he got his first dose while I was at home recovering from my stay in the chair from hell. Also, when I returned Nick was hooked up to monitoring and had a new nurse. It seems that when you are on oxygen greater than or equal to 60%, it is policy that you must be on monitoring and you must have one of the critical care RN's taking care of you.

I was very happy about all this extra attention because Nick should have had it yesterday. In the morning, the Respiratory Therapist came in to do a treatment and I asked her how much oxygen was delivered by the simple face mask that Nick was on...she told me it is hard to say but, maybe like 44%?? Then Nick was switched over to a high flow oxygen mask at 60% and his sats have been much better - he should have been on this all of yesterday as well!

I am not going to write a lot tonight, because I am so tired and I need to go to bed and get some rest. I am still very worried, but, I felt comfortable coming home tonight as Nick is now being monitored by machines and more experienced ICU nurses. A fungal lung infection is never good, but, at least we know who the enemy is now and therefore, we can plan an attack. I will try to give a better update on my next post. Please keep Nick in your thoughts and prayers.

I am putting the Bowling Ball Fungus on my player because it makes me laugh. And I need to laugh right now or all I will do is cry. Nick and I listened to this "crank call" this morning and we both got a big kick out of it. We hope you do to.

10AM

Well Nick made it through the night!! No new problems. All the new flavors of Skittles and Sprees were administered in orderly fashion. Nick slept through the Ambisome infusion, no adverse effects were in evidence. The nurses changed shift and Nick has his same nurse as yesterday, Nurse Joy. She is very nice and sweet. She saw how much he was struggling yesterday, so hopefully, she will stay on top of things today. I am hoping today will be QUIET and that Nick will begin to show signs of improvement. The doctors already rounded and they all appeared in his room this morning, hoping something miraculous had occurred. I feel that it is still a little early to judge yet as Nick only started the new medications at midnight and beyond. He will be taking his second dose of steroids this morning. (I guess he will be getting the chipmunk cheeks again, but, hopefully it will help his appetitie as well.) His counts for some reason are up today (higher than any recent values), which I am not sure what to make of it.
WBC =3,750 ANC = 1,988! Platlets - 116K Hct. 29.3 If nothing else, I hope the higher neutrophil count will help his mouth begin to heal. Keep Nick in your thoughts and prayers.
Florence Nightingale out!

3AM

Well Captain Nick is resting finally. The night has been somewhat uneventful....thank goodness for small favors. The problems arises when Nick has to get up to use the BR, which is often when they are pumping you full of fluids for "pre" hydration and "post" hydration and other what not. When Nick gets out of bed, even to the new throne, called a bedside commode, all bets are off because his body does not want to tolerate all this activity and he starts working really hard to breathe! I am hoping one of these new medicines will kick in and knock whatever germs are causing this right out of Nick's system. This is the first time I have ever felt the need to spend the night and so far no one has tried to remove me from the room. It has all been very pleasant, yet, exhausting, because there is no where to sleep, so I have mostly been catching up on blogs, emails, Facebook, old boyfriends (just kidding - don't have any old boyfriends) making lists of things to be done and generally occupying myself. The nurse will be in soon to start the Ambisome (loving called the "yellow devil juice") Nick has been on this before and his body did not like it too much. So I hope this time is better. I hope by this time tomorrow night, there will be an improvement in Nick's respiratory status. Peace out.

No Frills

Just a quick no frills post from Nick's hospital room. I can't post any pictures from here, and I don't know what kind of picture would do justice to the sick feeling in the pit of my stomach that I have been dealing with all day. Nick has been really struggling!! His breathing has become worse over time as each day here has progressed. Today when I arrived Nick was quiet and still did not feel well. He had a rough night with a fever and lots of people taking VS etc. Then after he got up to use the bathroom, he came out to his bed and was grey, breathing fast, and looking terrible. I called the nurse who checked his sats which were down below 90! Then I had to start raising cain as to what the hell has been going with Nick and what are they doing to help him! The doctor came and gave me the same song and dance...long story, let's just say, I didn't like his dance or his song. Long story short, the latest CT scan is now showing signs of infection/pneumonia. Therefore, the ID doctor (we like a lot) came and examined Nick and gave her orders. Nick will be starting some new medicines and the dreaded "Ampho-terrible." He has been on this before (back in the early days). It is nasty but, they feel strongly that Nick needs this coverage.

For now Nick is hanging on...and the hope is he won't end up on a breathing machine. We are praying that one of these medicines kicks in and starts making all this nastiness go away!! I have been sick with worry. Nick also spiked a fever today of 102F, which also adds evidence to the infection side of the diagnosis ledger. The only good thing is that this puts the OTHER BAD possibility farther down on the list! Because we don't want Nick to have that one either!

Depending on how Nick is doing, I am so worried that I may even have to spend the night. I have never felt the need to spend the night at any point in this process. But, I know Nick feels really bad and he has absolutely no reserve to even get up to use the bathroom. So right now, I am waiting to see how the night progresses. Nick is listening to the Terps game and Kate is here as well to keep him mind occupied with other things than how hard it is to breathe.

For all my medical buddies out there, here's the 411 on the medical stuff:
1. Fever - blood cultures done per protcol once/24 hours period
2. Results from NP viral panel - negative
3. Results from BAL - negative
4. Continues to run with low WBC (although up from yesterday) = 2290 ANC = 270
5. Hemtocrit - 28.7
6. No blood gasses drawn
7. Went from 6l NC, to some kind of face mask, but, I don't know what % O2 is delivers
8. Sats vary - usually running low 90's on O2
9. Resp Rate - up from baseline in 20's (already high for 26 year old guy) to 30's on bedrest, to 40's with ANY KIND OF ACTIVITY!
10. HR - high 130's, up to 140's with activity
11. After last BR trip his color was grey and he was using accessory muscles and nasal flaring
12. Nail beds dusky, pulses ok,
13. Chest tight, unable to take deep breaths; Albterol nebs q6
14. Still with only a 22 guage IV
15. NO ambu bag or mask in the room
16. Lytes stable - CO2 on lytes on low side
17. BP stable so far
Well, enough said for now...I will post again soon as I know something more. Please keep Nick in your hearts and prayers. For now, I don't think he is ready for visitors, but, I will let you know if that changes.

Catch Me

The glass fell from my trembling hand
And shattered into a million pieces.
Was it half empty or half full?
Did it ever really matter?

The doctors are still trying to figure out what is going on with Nick. There are many tests that are still being done and results pending from others. Nick will be repeating some of his pulmonary function tests (PFT's) to compare the results from now and from before his BMT. He will also be going for an MRI of his face and jaw area to see if there is any kind of infection going on there. The doctors decided to start Nick on ANOTHER antibiotic that is very strong, with lots of side effects that I hope he doesn't get! Nick is still on the oxygen and getting nebulizer treatments to help with his "wheezing." His mouth is still very uncomfortable and therefore, his eating has been limited to the fortified milk/Carnation Instant Breakfast shakes. The radiation treatments are still on hold right now. The doctors have a couple theories, but, no point of elaborating until we have a definitive diagnosis. It could be a simple as a viral infection or it could be something else all together. At this point, I am hoping it is the viral infection. Please keep Nick in your thoughts and prayers. He is still checking his email, facebook etc. Please call his cell to see if he is up for visitors and because his counts are low, no one who is sick should visit right now. Please let Nick know you are still with him in this fight....he needs everyone's support right now! If you want to send cards, letters, or other, you can mail to hospital or mail to home address and I will get things to him!! Mailing to home is usually quicker than going through the hospital mail system. For now I say goodnight.

Little Turtle Guy

I feel like this little turtle guy is Nick trying to make it to the safety of the ocean. He is still just a newborn in bone marrow transplant years. He is so vulnerable out here on this great expanse of beach. The tiny steps are excruciatingly slow and painful to watch at times, but, I cannot take the steps for him. I can only stand guard and do what I can to protect him from unseen dangers.

On Monday, Nick was admitted to the hospital again. Dr. Pants felt that this was the best course of action considering Nick's recent collection of symptoms. Nick will be treated with IV antibiotics. Blood tests were done, chest and sinus CT scans also. The radiation treatments have been put on hold for the next 24-48 hours, depending on Nick's progress. My biggest concerns right now consist of one old and one new finding. The old is his weight loss and his inability to really eat any solid food due to the condition of his mouth. For now he will have to stick with soft foods and lots of shake type drinks.

My new concern is what is causing Nick to have low oxygen levels. After Nick was admitted, they checked his "sats" with a machine called a pulse oximeter. Nick's level was very low. Nick has never had any problems with his oxygen saturations in the past. This is not a test they do down in the clinic area, so who know how long this has been going on. The doctors have yet to come up with a diagnosis that explains why Nick's O2 sats would be low. In the meanwhile, Nick has to be on some oxygen to keep his sats closer to normal. He is currently on what is called a nasal cannula which has little prongy things that go in your nose and blow oxygen up there. Of course, he doesn't like it, but, his sats are not even normal with the nasal cannula so he has to wear it.

I am not surprised that Nick was admitted, but, the ride home with just his coat in the car made me so sad. I do not like him being in the hospital and I miss him already. I am hoping that this will be just a small blip on the radar and soon this little turtle guy will find his way to the safety of the sea.

Golden Fog

I have been remiss in my posting lately, mainly due to the fact that I have not had the energy to write anything at all creative or positive. I chose this picture because it is just beautiful and I could use some beauty in my life right now. The name of the picture is "Golden Fog." I feel like I am in a fog...but, it is not golden! It is cold and damp, and dark and I cannot find my way out of it. I hate fog. I hate feeling so helpless to do something to help the ones I love. Between the stop lossing of my soldiers and the illness of my son, I have not been in a very good place lately.

Nick has not really been feeling well for NINE MONTHS now. It is hard for me to grasp that he has been going through this process for that long. I just want to state for the record that I can't remember the last time he has really felt good. Since last week, my nurse radar has been on high alert and I am sorry to say that it has once again proved to be a reliable predictor of things to come.

Last week Nick's symptoms included, but were not limited to the following: headache, neck pain, lower back pain, mild cough, pain in his legs, numbness and tingling of one of his arms, fatigue, fatigue, did I say fatigue, as in tired all the time. GI disturbances, shortness of breath, rapid shallow breathing, wheezing noises with deep breath, activity intolerance, limited reserved to do anything, pale skin color, rapid pulse, mouth pain and sensitivity, loss of appetite, painful mouth sore where he bit his cheek and it still hasn't healed in over three weeks, dry mouth, cracked lips, painful acne/zits caused by Dasatinib, and I'm not even going to address the emotional consequences of feeling this shitty 24/7. So....

Thursday morning we get a call from Dr. Frosty, he tells us they do not want Nick to get his treatment (LP & IT chemo) because it will be too close the the radiation that is due to start this Tuesday. OK...I guess?? Nick is concerned to miss a treatment, but, the doctors seem to think it will be ok. We go to hop anyway to have Nick's labs drawn and see doctor. Nick proceeds to tell Dr. Frosty about all the things above, a brief examination takes place. Dr. Frosty tells Nick he looks great to him???? I think Dr. Frosty needs to get his eyes checked....immediately. Turn the burner up and bring me to a boil! Is my head still on my shoulders, cause it feels like I just blew my top.

Counts come back low again...WBC down to 1150, ANC 450's, Hct. 32?? So much for the "upward trend." Discussion of giving Nick some blood, just to see if it helps, but, it is already 3PM so we can't get blood on Thursday. So we will wait until Monday to get the blood. We head for home. I am quite demoralized, BECAUSE NOBODY EVER LISTENS TO ME WHEN I TELL THEM THAT THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH MY SON!!!!!!

Fast forward to Sunday: Symptoms have continued and or worsened. Nick has been running a low grade fever 99's for past two to three days. Today it was up to 38.1C = 100.5F. The infamous "look" has returned, along with puffy eyelids, paler color, cough has worsened along with spells lasting like 20-30 minutes of coughing. Appetite has been fair and luckily Nick has been able to maintain some food and fluid intake. His wisdom tooth was bothering him on Sat. so we called dentist and oncology MD - they wanted him to start on antibiotic, so now he is back on another med...and still having fever through antibiotic. His cheek and his lip still appear swollen on the right side of his face where the wisdom tooth and mouth sore are acting up. Nick was supposed to go out to dinner with Kate tonight, he did not go, because he just did not feel well enough. I wanted to call the doctor tonight, Nick did not want me too. We will be there bright and early tomorrow, so I guess that is soon enough to get this all sorted out. And to rub just a little more salt in an already painful wound, Nick is supposed to start RADIATION on Tuesday!

I really don't know how this will all go down right now. I am worried and I am so tired of fighting the system. It is like no one can do anything until it is an emergency of some sort. I really don't know what more I can say. I feel like a zombie just going through the motions. How many times can you bang your head into a brick wall before you lose consciousness? Nick has to get a lot of scans and X-rays tomorrow in preparation for the radiation treatments to begin on Tuesday. It will be a long day. One bit of good news from last week: Nick's spinal fluid remains clear of any detectable badness! Wish I had more good news to throw your way...but, the reality of the situation is that it mostly just sucks really bad right now!

So I want to title this post "Life Sucks" but, thought better of it, because life is life and it's better than the alternative. So I asked SARA what I could call it instead and thus the title. Oh yeah, and if you haven't signed the petition against stop loss, PLEASE DO SO TODAY!! This will make me happy for a little while anyway. I will post the link on the right side of my blog. And please tell your friends, I bet they don't know anything about stop loss! Please educate them.

No More Stop Loss

Ladies and gentlemen....
We interrupt our regularly scheduled programming to bring you the following announcement:
Despite Obama's campaign promises to begin drawing down troops in Iraq and his recent plans "to withdraw most American troops from Iraq by August 2010 but leave tens of thousands behind to advise Iraqi forces," things are not always as the seem.
Right now, soldiers who are supposed to be getting out of the Army are being stop lossed and forced to remain on active duty and deploy back to Iraq or Afghanistan. In addition, soldiers that are actually OUT OF THE ARMY are also being called back to active duty from what is called the IRR or Individual Ready Reserve. This is a pool of soldiers that can basically be "reactivated" at any time, even though they are out of the Army. The IRR is supposed to be used only in cases of "severe emergency" and gives the President the authority to call up these soldiers as needed. Apparently this authority has been in effect for a long time, despite no evidence of "severe emergency" other than the dwindling ranks of volunteers for the military.

This involuntary recall and stop lossing is happening on a regular basis to soldiers who have no desire to give any more of their lives in the service of this country than what they have already given. In many cases, theses are men and women who have already served multiple tours, have families, have started college, may even be injured or have PTSD, but, it doesn't matter!! They call them back, work them out, pack them up and send them back to defend our country and our right to sit around with our feet up and not even remember that the "great war on terror" continues and well, somebody's gotta fight it, so it might as well be the ones who volunteered in the first place right? Oh, and let's not forget the line that is always heaved up when this topic is discussed...."Well, you signed the contract. That really sucks for you." It's not our problem that many were lied to about the fine print or maybe when they signed up they didn't figure on TWO WARS that are still going on after six and eight years.

Anyway, here are some examples of stop loss and/or involuntary recall at it's finest:

1) The Usual Suspect - just returned from Iraq in June of 2008. He is stationed in Fort Lewis, WA. He was in Iraq for 15 MONTHS! He is an infantry soldier with the 4th Stryker Brigade Combat Team. He is like 45 days from getting discharged OUT OF THE ARMY FOR GOOD.
But, hold up, wait a minute.....this just in, the 4-2 will deploy back to Iraq in the fall of 2009!
Fingers are crossed that those who are supposed to be getting out won't be stop lossed. What do you think will happen?

2) 13 Stoploss - he was already stop lossed! He was married and had a baby due. He had to sell his home and his wife had to move home with her family, so she wouldn't be alone when she delivered the baby. This soldier was a FISTER (read his blog if you want to know what that is) and he has had a really rough time getting past all the BS he has had to deal with since then. He is out of the Army now, thank God. Here is what 13 had to say in one small excerpt from his post called "Fear" on the Army's stop loss policy and how it affected him, "Can you imagine a combat trained Infantry Battalion losing 40% of its force? Neither could the Pentagon, and that's why there is a stop loss."

3) Army of Dude - this guy was also in a Stryker unit. He is also out of the Army, but, is on the IRR. He lives in a certain amount of fear every day, that the "brown" envelope will show up in his mailbox "inviting" him to report for active duty again. Dude is in school and is in the process of trying to get his life back together after a 15 month deployment as well. So far Dude has been lucky, but, his friend SL was not so lucky! He got his call back and needless to say he and Dude were not too thrilled about this. Dude started a campaign to try to help his friend and long story short, his friend was able to have his case reviewed and his orders have been cancelled. If you read nothing else, read his "Keeping the Faith: A Letter to President Obama."

4) Colby Buzzell - another soldier who had a blog (My War: Killing Time In Iraq) while in Iraq. Came home wrote a book (by the same name) about his experiences. He was out for three years when he got his little party invite. Go to his site and read about how he was one station away from being back in the Army when he was able to get approved for a medical "not deployable" due to his PTSD.

All of these guys are wonderful writers. They are intelligent and articulate young men who have literally been to hell and back. They all have a point of view and they are doing their damnedest to make a difference in the crazy messed up world. All of their sites are listed on my blog roll on the side of my blog. If you want to know more about stop loss, IRR, and what amounts to basically a back door draft, please take a moment to read what they have to say!! In addition, I am asking EVERYONE to take a moment out of your life and sign this petition to end stop loss and involuntary recalls of our soldiers. Please feel free to write and CALL your Congresspeople. It can and will make a difference. It is our duty as citizens to be informed. These guys could be your sons, your brothers, your husbands, so let's all take a moment to give a shit about what happens to them, shall we? The last time I checked the petition had about fifteen signatures. Not a great outpouring of support. But, that will change when all of you go and sign. I hope to see all my family and friends signed on to this petition the next time I check. Thank you in advance for your support!

Snow Day

Announced by all the trumpets of the sky,
arrives the snow.

by Ralph Waldo Emerson

Snowmen fall from Heaven, some assembly required.